To Open or Not to Open…with Magic

There is a lot of misconception that PUMA Skills is promoting Magic as a great way to “open” the interaction with a girl.  NOT TRUE.  Although it can be done…this is risky.  First impressions are everything, and if you start out as a magician and that’s all she knows about you…the rest of the interaction you’ll be trying to convince her that there’s more to you.  Plus, you’ve fired the big guns way too early.

Magic can be really powerful when the girl least expects it, with little set up…and when you’ve already established rapport.  Unless you have amazing skills and an even MORE amazing way to follow…a PUMA typically would wait til later in the interaction to open.

You know that time in your conversation where you would normally tell a story to the girl to create some sort of connection (real or canned)?  That’s a great place to interject a magic effect.

EXCEPTIONS-  The Proximity Open:   This is where you are doing a casual but visual effect (like levitating an object or using flash paper) in a girls line-of-sight.  Perhaps you’re doing an effect for a friend and it’s close enough to get noticed.  It’s important to be low key and casual here…she’ll be much more likely to come over and open you. 

Conversely…your wingman could pull her in and say, “Watch, you gotta see this!”  **If he does this…make sure you become “The Reluctant Magician.”  Play it off, laugh and tell them that your friend is impressed very easily.  I’ll say, “Ok watch, my grandpa just taught me this…”  They’ll think you’re about to pull a coin out from behind their ear.  When you float a bill or make five $1 bills turn into five $100 bills in front of their eyes…you may even get a scream!

EXCEPTION Number “B”  I have taken the opportunity to open a group of girls with a magic trick when the girl I’m opening is NOT the target.  She’s the friend, the girlgoyle, the grenade, etc.  I like to find her when she’s not directly “with” her friend, but standing near her or wait til the hot girl has left temporarily.

Theory here: 

• I’m entertaining her friends, not her. 
• You don’t care if you impress or attract her friend if the trick doesn’t work out. 
• When it DOES WORK, and then you befriend her amiga, she will undoubtedly pull her hot friend over to meet you so you can do the trick for her.  If this happens…YOU MUST REFUSE!  Do not be a Dancing Monkey.  You just got an intro to the hot target without using magic directly.  Yet b/c you won’t show her, now there’s something “mysterious” about you AND you’re not complying with her demands like 99% of AFC’s or Average Frustrated Chumps will.  (You can pull out a trick later in the night after you’ve been engaging your target for a while…but only when she doesn’t expect it at all!)

Summary:  Don’t Open with Tricks.  Insert them into your set at certain unexpected times.  If you absolutely must open…either do a Proximity Open, have your friend pull a girl in and be “The Reluctant Magician” or open the fattest girl in the group.  (I mean the one you’re not as interested in…just to be P.C.)